7 Building Blocks of a Long-Lasting Relationship

Purity Mukami
Butifulrelations
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5 min readOct 22, 2020

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Relationships are no longer what they used to be. Their success rates are declining with every passing day. Silly mistakes that could have been avoided have ruined several nice relationships. For a relationship to be healthy and long-lasting, it takes more than promises to stay forever, in good and bad times. And if you are seeking to have a satisfying relationship which will last for long, you need to contemplate these vital points

1. Remind Your Partner You Love Them

Most relationships start on very high gears. A mere sight of your partner fills you with goosebumps. A text message from them leaves you smiling. You look forward to seeing them occasionally and you can’t get enough of each other. ‘I love you’ becomes your usual slogan. All these, however, tend to change as time goes by.

-”I believe one thing. I believe that we should always say, ‘I love you’ to the people we love”~www.idlehearts.com

To ensure that your relationship lasts long, always remind your partner of your love for them. Surprise them with gifts and loving messages. Occasionally, treat them to dinner or movie dates. Do anything to remind them of your love.

2. Communication

Communication is another essential key to a long, happy relationship. Talk with your partner frequently regarding your relationship, your likes and dislikes, and plans for both of you.

-”Longevity of relationship depends upon transparent communication”~ Dr. Vandana Raghuvanshi.

While at it, be a good listener too. Seek to understand more and judge less. Try and perceive your communication preference and comprise what suits both of you better.

3. Gratitude

Always look for reasons to appreciate your spouse. The reasons don’t have to be big, even the tiniest acts of compassion are reasons enough to show them gratitude.

-”Gratitude is the bridge that merges your love with longevity. It is the vital ingredient for a lasting relationship”~ Steve Maraboli.

Never miss an opportunity to appreciate your spouse for everything they do for you and for the success of your relationship.

4. Honesty

Honesty is essential for any relationship to thrive. Never hide things from your spouse or feed them half-truths. Additionally, avoid sweeping issues under the carpet and deal with them whenever they arise.

-”Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy. Every healthy relationship is built on a foundation of honesty and trust.”~DaveWillis.org

Honesty helps to grow trust and belief between the two of you and ensures that your relationship lasts long. You should figure all the truths of your relationship and talk about them no matter how ugly they may be.

5. Often Check on Your Relationship

Checking on your relationship often will work miracles in growing it. Additionally, this provides wondrous solutions for most relationship issues.

-”In life, treat your relationships as if you are growing the best beautiful flower. Keep watering it, tend to its roots, give it lots of sunlight, and make sure the petals are full of color and are never curling. Once you neglect your plant, it will die, as will your relationship”~ Suzy Kassem.

Occasionally check on your relationship status. You can do that every two weeks or every month. Evaluate the steps you have made to grow it and appreciate each other for the effort. Where things are not going well, come up with ways to have that fixed.

6. Healthy Fights

Healthy and long-lasting relationships do encounter healthy fights. Anticipating and handling them well ensures that the relationship survives, and for a long time.

-”To be in an adult relationship is not to be conflict-free, it’s to resolve the conflicts mindfully”~ David Richo.

Always focus on the issue at hand and take responsibility for your actions. Forgive each other for the hurt and leave it at that. When you have done all that, focus on rebuilding the emotional bond that may have been strained by the conflict.

7. Self-Care

To ensure the longevity of your relationship, it is essential to take excellent care of yourself. Nourish your body, eat healthily, and do regular workouts.

-”An empty lantern provides no light. Self-care is the light that allows your light to shine bright”~www.organisedlifeandmind.com.

You should always ensure you are taking care of yourself and encourage your partner to do the same. It’s also good to create healthy connections outside your relationship. That can be of great help in improving yourself and your relationship as you get to learn a lot of meaningful things.

Healthy and long-lasting relationships are most people’s dreams. They are also the best way to experience love in its most beautiful form. Following these suggestions will ensure you achieve all that and better still, maintain it.

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Purity Mukami
Butifulrelations

I cover everything about parenting,relationships,personal development and women issues.